Out of our control

Nomatter how much of a control freak you are, you cannot control how people think and feel. People around you, you cannot control how you want them to think and feel too. Nomatter how much you explain yourself, justify yourself, you cannot control them. Maybe you can change their minds, but by then, why would you even bother? What you say or do affects you greatly, and if you are associated with anyone, like your partner, or family, it affects them too.

 These people will end up having to clean up the mess you made especially if you react negatively towards how other people think or feel after you have shown yourself. What if you are really innocent? Just one little action of yours that means nothing to you can already conclude something in their minds and hearts. And then this spreads like cancer. And when it happens, it affects your future. The past you wish you could change or do something about it, the future of which what happens next. How people around you will react to it, how people will behave and go about around you.

 What can you do about this? How do you avoid it?

 I learned that you must think before you take action, even if its just a small matter. Because small matter that has been addressed wrongly, can escalate to something so big, you wish you were never born. If an action is needed, find another way, don't sync it with how you feel. If its hard, find something to calm you down first. Seek help, and make sure the other person doesn't get all high and mighty and suddenly takes action in your place, because no matter how they word it, it will come right back at you. Anger will only cloud your judgement. The last thing we want is animosity between you and some one you get along well in the beginning.

 Deep breaths, calm down, be rational.